Christina Rossetti · 1862
Remember
Christina Rossetti · 1862
Remember me when I am gone away, Gone far away into the silent land; When you can no more hold me by the hand, Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay. Remember me when no more day by day You tell me of our future that you planned: Only remember me; you understand It will be late to counsel then or pray. Yet if you should forget me for a while And afterwards remember, do not grieve: For if the darkness and corruption leave A vestige of the thoughts that once I had, Better by far you should forget and smile Than that you should remember and be sad.
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What Serany thinks about this poem
Background
Christina Rossetti wrote it in 1849, when she was nineteen. It's been read at funerals for well over a hundred years.
Meaning
She asks to be remembered, and then she changes her mind. If remembering her is going to make you sad, she'd rather you forgot and were happy.
Who's it for
A long marriage, or a parent you were really close to. It's the person who died giving everyone permission to be happy again.

Photograph by Dante Gabriel Rossetti. Public domain.
Christina Rossetti
British · 1830 – 1894
Christina Rossetti grew up in a London house full of painters and poets, and her brother Dante Gabriel drew her more than once. She wrote most of her best-known work before she was twenty-five, and died in 1894.
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