Funeral poemsShe Is Gone

She Is Gone

David Harkins · 1981

She Is Gone

David Harkins · 1981

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What Serany thinks about this poem

Background

David Harkins wrote it in 1981, in his twenties, about someone who didn't love him back. It was read at the Queen Mother's funeral in 2002 as "He Is Gone", and both versions get used.

Meaning

It gives you two ways to feel and asks which one you'll pick. You can cry that she's gone, or smile because she lived.

Who's it for

A mother or a grandmother, and a family trying to turn back towards living. Right for someone who'd have wanted everyone to get on with it.

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